I am part of a high school small-group discussion at church. When neither the adult normally leading it nor his substitute could make it, one of the students started leading. The discussion quickly became distracted; one student was constantly doing something on his phone, and even the leader was on the phone with someone. He later let me take over, but the discussion was now so off-topic that I couldn’t get it back on topic. I did not have the attention of the entire group at any one time. What should I do the next time that happens?

  • Hello and welcome to the site. There are a lot of training resources on leading small groups out there. A classic book is Growth Groups by Colin Marshall. If your church hasn't run training for leaders like yourself it would probably be good to suggest they invest in their leaders by running formal training of some kind.
    – curiousdannii
    Sep 26, 2019 at 11:50

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Just a few tips... Never tell someone something when you can have them discover the answer themselves by asking a question. To lead a group it helps to have a ton of questions written down. Start with a few easy questions to get the ball rolling and then ask more challenging questions. When some one answers a question, as another person what they think about that person's answer or "Does anyone disagree with that answer"? This usually gets the conversation going.

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