Matthew 3:11 NIV
“I baptize you with water for repentance. But after me comes one who
is more powerful than I, whose sandals I am not worthy to carry. He
will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire.
There are three experiences that you receive from the Holy Spirit.
Stage One: Guidance
The Holy Spirit is guiding you, but is not within you. This can be considered like a conscience or something. Notice the words of this passage. You first come to know the Truth. This is prior to receiving the promise, you must first know what the promise is. This is the first step in your growth with Christ.
John 14:17 NIV
the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither
sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and
will be in you.
Stage Two: Indwelling
The second stage with the Holy Spirit is actually when the Spirit of Truth makes His home within you. This is the point of your salvation, that you are marked with the promise from the Father.
I imagine that this stage is going to be a very debatable topic for most. As this is the reason for the separation between congregations IMO.
As I understand it. When you begin to Obey Christ, is when you begin to accept Him as your Lord. At this stage in your life, the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit begin to indwell in you.
John 14:23 NIV
Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father
will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them.
1 John 4:16 (NIV)
16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love.
Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.
John 14:15 NIV
[ Jesus Promises the Holy Spirit ] “If you love me, keep my commands.
So you can see, to obey God is the beginning of true love and joy. These are also fruits of the Spirit.
Stage Three: The Baptism of the Spirit
The last stage of the Holy Spirit "experience" (for lack of a better word) is the baptism. This is not the same baptism as you received with water, as Mathew 3:11 points out. The baptism with water was the baptism for repentance. But the baptism of the Holy Spirit is the fire. Luke 3:16 John 1:33 Acts 1:5 Acts 11:16
Mark 1:8 NIV
I baptize you with water, but he will baptize you with the Holy
Spirit.”
Many scholars believe that you must wait until you are baptized with the Holy Spirit before you should begin to go out and preach the word of God. This understanding comes from the following verse. Keep in mind that Jesus disciples had received the Holy Spirit prior to this.
read it in context here, but I'm going to shorten it up:
Acts 1 NIV
... he gave them this command: “Do not leave Jerusalem, but wait for
the gift my Father promised, which you have heard me speak about. 5
For John baptized with water, but in a few days you will be baptized
with the Holy Spirit.”...
... 8 But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you;
and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and
Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” ...
You see how we can come to the conclusion that we will not receive power and authority from God until He has baptized us with the Holy Spirit.
I hope that this helps.