Beyond the obvious of:
Jesus died on the Cross and drank down God's wrath, what do we have to complain about?
All things that happen were things allowed by God to sanctify us.
Read the book of Job
what are the deep theological works on avoiding/fighting the victim mentality?
This is definitely a reference request in that I'm unable to extract this knowledge out of the Biblical verses myself, so I'm looking for a great theologian who has -- and reading their work.
In particular, I'm looking for something scripture based. I'm not looking for the prosperity gospel notion of "God wants you to be happy! To have your best life now! Smile! Be Happy! Yay! :-)!" rather I'm looking for something deep -- something that takes the "victim mentality", reduces it to the fundamental sins / thoughts that gives rise to the "vicim mentality", and shows how to over come it.
Certainly, people like Martin Luther, David Brainerd, Dietrich Bonehoeffer, and others ... must have at times been tempted with "victim mentality" -- and surely some must have written about how they overcame it.
Lastly, if anyone had a right to claim to victim mentality -- it'd probably have to be Christ, who lived a perfect live and became the sacrifical lamb. Thus, if there's work on how Christ avoided the victim mentality, that'd be great too.