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The scripture is vague about what a widow or widower sexual life should be, please enlighten me.

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@DavidStratton This has been phrased with the scope protestant - surely it's not unreasonable to ask what is Protestant doctrine on this topic? –  bruised reed May 31 at 16:44
    
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@DavidStratton thanks for the clarification - I've still got a lot to learn! Am I wrong to think that a relatively minor edit could make this an acceptable question? Also is this question: christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/28612/… acceptable or does it too require editing to fit the scope of the site? –  bruised reed May 31 at 18:39

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The scriptures consistently portray marriage as the only valid vehicle of sexual expression:

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. - Hebrews 13:4 ESV

(Also cf 1 Corinthians 6:9-20)

Although the scriptures are not explicit wtih regard to masturbation, many Protestant denominations would view it as inconsistent with teaching against lust (cf Matthew 5:27-30 - note particularly, the reference to the right hand in that context), but they are generally less dogmatic about that than say using prostitutes which is explicitly condemned (1 Corinthians 6:15-16).

Practical advice to widows and widowers is much the same as for singles:

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. - 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 ESV

So if you can live chastely as a single do so (explicit encouaragement for this option is given if you have the 'gift' for it, but discouraged if you don't: 1 Corinthians 7:7-9), but if you have inclination and opportunity to re-marry, you are entirely free to do that instead.

also, and more specifically for young widows:

So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander. - 1 Timothy 5:14 ESV

Although the wider context of verses 3-16 shows several issues at play regarding this advice.

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