The bible only discusses lust in the context of adultery, see:
Matthew 5:27-28 KJV
Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after
her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man's wife? Why embrace the
bosom of a wayward woman?
However, the bible does mention how you should love your wife:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and
gave Himself for her,
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that
loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and
cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall
be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife
even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
There are no better examples in the bible of sexual desire that Song of Solomon.
Song of Solomon 4:7
You are altogether beautiful, my love;
there is no flaw in you
Song of Solomon 7:1-8
How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince’s daughter! Your graceful
legs are like jewels, the work of an artist’s hands. Your navel is a
rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of
wheat encircled by lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin
fawns of a gazelle. Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are
the pools of Heshbon by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the
tower of Lebanon looking toward Damascus. Your head crowns you like
Mount Carmel. Your hair is like royal tapestry; the king is held
captive by its tresses. How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my
love, with your delights! Your stature is like that of the palm, and
your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm
tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like
clusters of grapes on the vine, the fragrance of your breath like
note: if a pastor would teach from Song of Solomon, I'm sure he wouldn't have people falling asleep in the pews
Finally, we should look at:
Matthew 19:5 KJV
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and
shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
So then, we can see from the bible, how to treat our wives. I do not know of any biblical example where having too much lust and / or sexual desire for a man's own wife is a sin. Maybe there is a specific denominational teaching - Quakers being one that comes to mind. Any further information that I can give you would border on pastoral advice.