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My daughter is engaged to another believer. But his parents do not approve because of our financial status and other preferences they have for him. But what does scripture say about two believers that are equally yoked. Is there any Biblical reason that a man can not marry because his parents disapprove?

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closed as primarily opinion-based by David, DJClayworth, Caleb Dec 13 '13 at 10:21

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Hello, and welcome to our site. Unfortunately, we avoid "is x a sin" questions like this because the answer is largely opinion-based, and/or varies from denomination to denomination. This might be an appropriate question in a discussion forum, but this site isn't a discussion forum. See What to do with “Is x a sin” questions? and How we are different than other sites? – David Dec 13 '13 at 1:50
You might want to check with a Pastor/priest from their denomination to see if there's a basis for such a prohibition. In general most denominations view the "unequally yoked" verse to be referring to joining yourself to a non-believer, rather than addressing a financial discrepancy. – David Dec 13 '13 at 2:11
This question is way too broad. Can you narrow down the denomination? Are you talking about the Fundamentalist church, or are you talking about the Roman Catholic Church, or are you talking about the Russian Orthodox Church, etc.? – Double U Dec 13 '13 at 3:27
@DavidStratton To put it bluntly, I completely disagree with your post at that link. I've add a long rambling set of comments there. :-) – Jay Dec 13 '13 at 5:55
It still seems to be somewhat pastoral to me. – Dan Dec 18 '13 at 21:11

Perhaps they would quote a passage like Ephesians 6:1-3, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”"

Most Christians interpret that verse to apply to children in the sense of, people who are not yet adults. Very few would say that a 40 year old man is morally obligated to obey his 60 year old parents. Though I have heard some who say that. We could debate the exact point when a child becomes an adult and is freed from this obligation. Is it 18? 21? When he is no longer living in his parents home but has his own home and a job to support himself? I don't know of any explicit direction in the Bible on this point.

So my question would be the age and living/financial status of this young man. If he's 16 and still living with his parents, I think he is obligated to obey them. If he's 40 and has been supporting himself and living as an adult for many years, I think he owes them respect but not obedience.

One should also look at specific details of the considered marriage. Does it violate any other Biblical commands or advice?

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Jay, Honor your father and mother and Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right doesn't say that you need to obey every command of your parents until the day you die. this means that you should Honor them in all you do, do nothing to make them look like fools, obey in the Lord if your parents tell you to sin against the Lord and you refuse, are you breaking that commandment to honor your father and mother? – Malachi Dec 13 '13 at 16:05
Malachi: I agree, I tried to say something of that sort above, maybe I wasn't clear. There are several places in the Bible that instruct believers to obey some authority -- children to parents, wives to husbands, citizens to government, etc. But we are also told "we must obey God rather than men". If, say, your parents tell you to help them murder someone, I think the law against murder would supersede the law against obeying parents. Anti-Christians like to jump on these sort of things: The Bible says to do X but what about this extreme situation? But surely this issue exists in any ... – Jay Dec 16 '13 at 15:15
... moral code or law. I think every country has laws against stealing. But if a crazed maniac takes a bunch of people hostage and threatens to kill them all, and then in a moment of carelessness he puts down his gun and you have a chance to grab it, would anyone seriously say that it would be wrong for you to take his gun because that would be "stealing"? Etc etc, a creative person can easily come up with all sorts of extreme or odd cases where breaking a law would be a positive good, even a law generally recognized as good. – Jay Dec 16 '13 at 15:18
God is an understanding God, if we ask he will answer. so to all those off the wall theoretical circumstances, there are examples of good or bad in the bible to correspond, there are also examples where forgiveness is given for the act that must happen. – Malachi Dec 16 '13 at 16:03

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