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I am a Christian and also working as a Software Developer, The Church district I attend is far from my work place so I sometimes find it difficult going to Church, Although I listen to the live streaming online atimes, Due to my Job, I always find it difficult to be consistent in basic Christian doctrines like - Quiet Time - Going to Church - Reading the Bible and even Praying.

I also don't really have a Friend so I most of the time find myself alone. This have resulted in my gradual neglect of this basic things and frequent fall into sin......How can one create a Personal Christian Life and consistently grow.

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Hi and welcome to our community, just a bit about us, we're a fairly academic question and answer site run by a secular company. We're not somewhere you should be coming for spiritual advice. We have numerous individual members who are Christians (most of us are), but because of the venue and the nature of this site, we don't answer questions like this. Mostly because we don't trust ourselves. With questions like yours we want you to go talk to someone in real life. Your pastor or priest, a trusted friend, or someone in your church that you trust. – David Dec 7 '13 at 19:42
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As members above have pointed out, this site is not set up to answer your question, but not because your question isn't good; far from it. Your question is probably on the hearts and minds of many Christians throughout the world. If you'd like to exchange emails with me, I'd be glad to share with you some of the things that have helped me over the years to "live out" the Christian life and to grow in Christ. By the way, it's a process, and rarely are there any overnight transformations. When God does His part and you do yours, however, together you will mature. Count on it! – rhetorician Dec 7 '13 at 23:54
Meeting regularly with fellow believers is very important. I'd encourage you to look for a church closer to where you live so that you can meet with them easier. That doesn't mean you have to abandon your current church, you can still visit them when you can! – curiousdannii Dec 8 '13 at 2:26

The following that you mentioned:

Christian doctrines like - Quiet Time - Going to Church - Reading the Bible and even Praying

These are not doctrines at all. Those are rituals that Christians do. The doctrines are the reasoning behind those and faith is the motivation behind those.

So doing the rituals without understanding the reasons and without being properly motivated, is truly meaningless.

All the Christian doctrines are revealed to us in the Scriptures (the Holy Bible) but that's not all, the other key is our submission to God which can only be inspired and empowered by The Holy Spirit within us believers.

Do not believe for a second that without The Holy Spirit's help we will be able to gain the knowledge and understanding of the Scriptures, or be able to muster the motivation drawing from our own strength. These two diseases are the recipe for anemic "Christians" who speaks the lingo but runs on empty tank today.

Therefore the first step to secure the growth is to 1) Feed on the Scriptures as though you are eating your food, that is regularly and then 2) Wait for The Holy Spirit to "digest" the Scriptures for you, orient your mind towards Lord Jesus, and nourish your heart (read 1 Corinthians 3:6-7 to see where this is coming from).

Your prayer for now should contain one and only one focus: "Father, please draw me near and grow me" and He who is faithful will be faithful also in adding to you the reasoning and the motivation to do the right things for your growth including finding the right Christian group or church to belong to. This is the only way, and the best way to grow.

Hope this helps. Excellent question!

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Matthew 6:33-34

“Keep on, then, seeking first the Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these other things will be added to you. 34 So never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties. Each day has enough of its own troubles."

Matthew 6 25-32

“On this account I say to you: Stop being anxious about your lives as to what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your bodies as to what you will wear. Does not life mean more than food and the body than clothing? Observe intently the birds of heaven; they do not sow seed or reap or gather into storehouses, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth more than they are?

Who of you by being anxious can add one cubit to his life span? Also, why are you anxious about clothing? Take a lesson from the lilies of the field, how they grow; they do not toil, nor do they spin; but I tell you that not even Sol′o·mon in all his glory was arrayed as one of these. 30 Now if this is how God clothes the vegetation of the field that is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much rather clothe you, you with little faith?

So never be anxious and say, ‘What are we to eat?’ or, ‘What are we to drink?’ or, ‘What are we to wear?’ For all these are the things the nations are eagerly pursuing. Your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.

Another important aspect of the meetings is this at Hebrews 10:24-25

"And let us consider one another so as to incite to love and fine works, 25 not forsaking our meeting together, as some have the custom, but encouraging one another, and all the more so as you see the day drawing near."

We are fed spiritually by the meetings. Also with the interchange of conversation and such you are strengthened by your brothers and sisters.

My only advice is to seek God's advice through his word the bible and through prayer.

Matthew 7:7-8

“Keep on asking, and it will be given you keep on seeking, and you will find; keep on knocking, and it will be opened to you; or everyone asking receives, and everyone seeking finds, and to everyone knocking, it will be opened."

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