I wonder what the Bible says about underage and oral sex? Is it sinful? Why?
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Marriage is the prerequisite for sexual intercourse. Period. While in Bible times the "legal" age for marriage was likely considerably younger than it is today, the prohibitions against sexual contact are laid out clearly in both Testaments, "Old" and "New."
According to one tradition, Mary, the mother of Jesus, may have been a young teenager when she was betrothed to Joseph. Clearly, then, her having relations with Joseph after the miraculous birth of Jesus would be considered a "crime" today! This does not mean that we are free today in any modern nation to have sexual relations with a minor, either before or after marriage. As for the latter, we need to be guided by the laws of our respective countries; as for the former, even if our country happens to condone the marriage of a minor, marriage, again, is the prerequisite for sexual relations. Period.
In the Bible, the sacredness of marriage is taken for granted. The standard is clear: one man, one woman, "till death do us part." Sex prior to marriage is fornication; sex between a man and a woman, one or both of whom are already married to another spouse, is adultery. God has laid down the law in sexual matters for our own good in general, for our joy in particular, and as an object lesson about fidelity in our relationship with Him.
Over and over again in the Old Testament, God accuses His people Israel of spiritual adultery when they turned to the gods of the nations round about them. Just as the biblical standard in sexual matters, again, is one man, one woman, for life, so too is our relationship to God to be one person, one God, for life. When we allow lesser gods or idols to come between us and God, we become adulterers in God's eyes.
While the Bible is silent on when two people can "legally" be married, in the sight of God a marriage is sanctioned when one man and one woman become one flesh.
This was God's standard from the beginning, and Jesus reiterated that standard when He was here on earth. Accordingly, in Bible times if a man were to have sex with a girl without the benefit of marriage, he would be guilty of fornication. His partner, even if "young" and a willing participant, would also be guilty of fornication. Forced sex, of course, would be rape, and in Bible times there were severe sanctions, including capital punishment, against that sort of behavior (see, for example, Deuteronomy 22:13-30, particularly verses 23-27).
For other biblical sanctions against various other sexual sins, the Law of Moses was quite specific about what does and does not constitute sin (see, for example, Leviticus 18).
As for particular consensual sex acts between two married people, husband and wife, the Bible is largely silent. Notice, however, that I use the term consensual. Since the biblical standard is for the husband to love his wife as he loves his own body, and furthermore to love her in the same way Christ loves His bride, the church universal, to engage in any sexual act with an unwilling partner would be a violation of the law of love (see Ephesians 5:22-33, particularly verses 28-30).
If I have given the impression that sexual morality is a one-sided affair, with all the prohibitions being aimed at the male of the species, the female of the species is also prohibited from engaging in sexual behavior apart from the "one man, one wife, for life" standard, including, for example, fornication, adultery, incest, prostitution, and other proscribed sexual behaviors, including homosexual relations (see Leviticus chapters 18 and 20; Romans 1:26,27).