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lots of my family and friends have died in a short period of time and for some reason it has made me stop believing in god and heaven, because i am from an Irish catholic background i don't want to say anything to my family about me not believing
My friend who died in a car crash was so innocent and she wasn't in the wrong and the man who crashed into her had done this before why was it her who died, i am so confused because if god loved everyone and cared for them why would he let innocent people be killed? also this child i know with cancer who is very ill has made me think about my beliefs because again why would god let this happen. advise on what to do? Ciara 16yrs

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The answers to christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/11250/… may be helpful. –  Belinda Sep 16 '13 at 15:43
Unfortunately we can't really have a bunch of random bods on the internet giving pastoral advice. Although there is some scrutiny of answers by voting, that's not a particularly reliable check on quality or worth in your unique case. We know nothing of your circumstances or that of your friends. Please, find someone you trust whom you can talk to. That's far better than what we can do here. If you like, use Confession to tell a priest of your doubts: then he can't tell anyone about what you're feeling. –  Andrew Leach Sep 16 '13 at 15:56
I'm very sorry for your loss, and I will pray for you. However Andrew is absolutely right. Asking people you don't know on the internet is absolutely the wrong way to go about getting answers to this. If you are connected to a church, talk to a priest or pastor - or just an adult you trust. Don't be worried about what they will think - a lot of people start to doubt when bad things happen. –  DJClayworth Sep 16 '13 at 16:13
Ciara, in the last year, I've lost my sister-in-law i a car accident, my mother died of sudden illness, and four days after we buried her, my wife kicked me out of the house. And yet, through it all, I've found a peace that passes understanding. Different people react differently. I want to pray for you (see our Prayer Room), and doubly say what Andrew, DJ, and everyone else is saying: You need a flesh and blood priest, not whoever shows up here. God loves you independent of your circumstance. I pray you will find the incarnated presence of Christ near you. –  Affable Geek Sep 16 '13 at 16:59
When I was your age, my grandparents all managed to die within a 3 year span. Everything happened so quickly, but I didn't blame God, I was just sad. I know different people react differently to bad situations. But grief is a natural and beneficial reaction. Even Jesus wept when his friend died (and he had the power to bring him back to life). –  Peter Turner Sep 16 '13 at 19:39
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"Why would God let innocent people be killed?"

The truth is, no one is innocent in this world and no one can escape death. We are all sinners. We are all destined to die and we are born to die. Death is always waiting for us and it knows no mercy. Death doesn't care who you are, where you came from, how old you are, what you have done and what you have. Because we are all sinners, we all must die.

By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return. (Genesis 3:19, NIV)

for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. (Romans 3:23, NIV)

Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned. (Romans 5:12, NIV)

"God let His innocent Son die for us"

Though we are sinners, God sent His one and only son to die in our place so that we may have eternal life. Jesus Christ was innocent and no sin was found in Him. Yet He died as a sinner by taking all our sins upon Himself. God gave His Son because He loves us and want to give us eternal life.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16, NIV)

“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” (1 Peter 2:24, NIV)

"There is hope in Jesus Christ"

It is a cruel world we are living in; death, poverty, sickness, war and famine everywhere. Sometimes, it feels like there is no reason to live in this world. But there is hope in Jesus Christ. Jesus alone can help us understand our purpose in this world and give us hope for the future. Only Jesus can give us inner peace and give us strength to carry on.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matthew 11:28-29)

"There will be no more death"

A time will come when there will be no more death because Jesus has overcome death. On that day we will say "Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?" (1 Corinthians 15:55, NIV)

‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4, NIV)

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It is very unfortunate that this has to happen. I went through much the same things as you when I was your age. I had a friend drown, my parents got divorced and I lost one of my favourite aunts. What one needs to understand is that God allows certain things to happen to people so that their lives can be a testimony to His greatness or a witness against the wickedness in this world. By allowing the wicked to injure the righteous, God allows their guilt to pile up until it reaches the heavens, at which point He will have his day of judgement.

We suffer because we live in a fallen world. Unjust things happen to us because the world is filled with injustice. It's the result of mankind turning its back on the Lord and seeking to glorify themselves. Don't be angry at God. Be angry at those people who harm those that don't deserve it and pray that God's day of Judgement and renewal should come so that there will no longer be sickness and suffering.

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This might be quite misleading for people new to the faith. Sentences like "God allows their guilt to pile up until it reaches the heavens, at which point He will have his day of judgement" and "Be angry at those people who harm those that don't deserve it" are quite misleading. –  Mawia Sep 17 '13 at 7:44
It's in the bible. Read Revelation. –  Juann Strauss Sep 17 '13 at 9:02
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