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Are there any teachings that state that there is anything unique to a Christian marriage that non-Christian marriages are deprived of?

A slightly different question but similar enough:

Does a couple that "goes to city hall" and enters into (what they believe to be) a strictly legal agreement of marriage also unwittingly enter into the same holy covenant that Christian spouses have?

Along these lines, from the question: What is the moral status of common-law marriage?, Caleb states:

Christianity even honors marriage as sacred when entered into by two non Christians with a purely secular profession. God's role in the covenant relationship is something we believe just is -- even if the parties involved ignore him.

(Could someone provide scriptural references for this assertion?)

Assuming what Caleb states is true, I understand the idea that a Christian marriage will have the privilege and benefits of working with God instead of against or in indifference to Him, as in a secular marriage. My question is not about the effect of the "quantity" of God in a marriage - rather, is there any special qualitative distinction between the two marriages? For example, the Holy Spirit dwells in a Christian, but not a non-Christian - is there anything analogous to this for the two kinds of marriage?

I'm mostly interested in this from a protestant perspective. It goes without saying, but in order to minimize opinion and open discussion, please derive any answers from scriptural references.

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I edited your question slightly to ask for particular teachings rather than searching for a Christian view on Truth, to bring it within site guidelines. I hope you don't mind. –  David Stratton Oct 25 '12 at 11:57
    
Are you asking here whether there is something special and unique about marriages started with a Christian ceremony, in a church and done by a minister; or whether there is something special about a marriage lived out between two Christians? –  DJClayworth Oct 25 '12 at 13:18
    
@David thanks, I have yet to master the delicate art of phrasing questions on this site. –  Keith Oct 25 '12 at 16:42
    
@DJ the actual ceremony is of little interest to me (unless it somehow affects the marriage on a fundamental level). The key difference I'm asking about is both humans in the marriage being "genuine" Christians or not. For added clarity and specificity, lets only consider marriages where both humans share the same faith (or lack thereof) –  Keith Oct 25 '12 at 16:49
    
I could give a good answer from a Catholic perspective, but I'm interested to see what those who do not view marriage as a sacrament have to say. –  Peter Turner Oct 26 '12 at 11:11
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I think the key to this is properly defining marriage in the eyes of Jesus. As stated in the below text, Jesus defines marriage as having intercourse with one another:

What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:16, 17 KJV)

We can see here the correlation of man joining himself to a woman just as Christ joins himself to us. Now clearly this is speaking of marriage for a number of reasons, but not least of which is the fact that we are the bride of Christ and he is relating how the man joins himself to the woman.

However, let's concrete this a little more by going back into the old testement and prove that intercourse is in fact the marriage of a man and woman.

And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. (Genesis 38:8 KJV)

You see the world today gets ceremonies mixed up with everything. Marriage has nothing to do with a ceremony, and nothing to do with mans laws, in the eyes of Jesus.

And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Mark 10:2-9 KJV)

Now, with this scripture we can finish the foundation of this answer. Jesus is speaking to the Pharisees and explaining marriage a bit more to make it clearer. They saw marriage just like the world sees it today, legalistically. However, as Jesus stated, from the beginning it was defined as a man and a woman cleaving to each other and becoming one flesh (which finishes lining up the scripture from Corinthians).

However, because of the hardness of mans heart Jesus was forced to allow a writ of divorcement so that the institution of marriage (as defined by two becoming one flesh during intercourse) could continue. You see, the Bible stated from the beginning the following:

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 KJV)

And that hasn't changed just because two people are incapable of staying together and resolving differences for whatever reason. Therefore divorce had to be instituted so that marriage could continue. But the definition of marriage, as you can see from when Jesus defined it, has not changed.

Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. (Hebrews 13:8 KJV)

So, now that we've got that out of the way we can answer the question, what do those that involve Jesus in their marriage have that others don't? Simple, they have a foundation and a rock to hold them together through the hard times and help them make good decisions as He guides them through their lives. But marriage itself has nothing to do with a priest, a law, or anything else - just two coming together as one.

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I'd be interested to see your take on all the rituals and ceremonies laid out in the Sinaitic law, the specific guidelines for priests and sacrifices, and the ceremonial and symbolic nature of communion and baptism. –  Sticmann Oct 26 '12 at 22:49
    
Thank you @Sticmann, I would love you share my views on these other things. If you wanted to post a question on the forum I will be glad to answer, or if you want to do it more personally my email address is on my profile, you can drop me a line and we can converse that way or even possibly over the phone. –  Michael Perrenoud Oct 26 '12 at 23:07
    
I meant I would love to, but my phone felt you was the more appropriate choice apparently. –  Michael Perrenoud Oct 26 '12 at 23:09
    
Ha :) Ok, I've posted a question here: christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/11410/… –  Sticmann Oct 27 '12 at 1:38
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It may be helpful to do a little set up first. There is a difference between indicative and imperative statements. An indicative is a statement of fact; there is no ought in it. The chair is brown; the ship is tilting, etc. An imperative is a command; it tells what we must do. Close the door; turn off the tv, and so on. Paul says, "'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. (Eph 5:31-32)" He's not saying that this is the way it ought to be, but that this is what marriage is, what it means fundamentally. As he goes on, he fleshes out the picture with instruction (imperatives) for husbands to love their wives and for wives to submit to their husbands.

Every marriage is a picture of Christ and his bride, the church. The scripture makes no distinction between good and bad marriages in this regard, whether heathen couples or believers. All marriages proclaim to the world how Christ relates to his church. Because of sin and rebellion, many of these pictures are slanderous lies concerning Christ. But a husband can never stop talking about Christ and the church by how he acts. If he is obedient to God, he is preaching the truth; if he does not love his wife, he is speaking apostasy and lies – but he is always talking.

In another sense, a "generational " or "covenantal" sense, there is a difference. Paul says, "If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. (1 Cor 7:13-14)" So in this sense, an unbelieving couple would be outside the covenant body of Christ, while a couple with even one believer sanctifies, or covers the children and they are counted as covenantal members. This is not to say that they are 'saved' but that they are connected to the body covenantally.

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